what if this is a test….

What if we were just stuck in some virtual game and the only way out was to pass the test. The only way out was through.... What if this is all a test to see how we get on, how well we do in this time. working on our relationships and more importantly ourselves.......

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Grey-Area Drinking

We all know how it feels to wake up, to be embarrassed for the things we said, things we did, to have a raging headache, to feel sick, to feel anxious, to be remorseful, to have brain fog... basically to be hung over. Imagine a life that you wake up every day being...

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Lock-Down Divorce

Divorce is not pretty, easy or comfortable, but for most of us who go through it, it proves to be essential, necessary and life changing. I can only try to imagine the hell that is going on behind closed doors in lock-down. The irritation, resentment, the despair, the...

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Silver Lining

There will be a silver lining to this, as long as we can let go of the year we had planned and leave space to create our future. It will be interesting to see what comes up without the endless consumerism, socialising and busying. We are being forced to go inwards as...

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GOING INWARD when we cant go Out..

Going inward is the way I found my peace my salvation and myself. I wish I had learnt this before my 50th Decade, that I didn’t need to keep taking action, to busy myself and distract myself through the chaos that was my life.  I wish I had discovered that...

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WHAT I KNOW TO BE TRUE

Being positivem optimistic lucky is a practice and practice you have to. There is no point in buying in to a new self-help system or gazing at the self help books on your shelf. I say KONDO out the self-help books and set out to be an intentional, deliberate,...

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20:20 vision for 2020

So, we need to be clear, clearer than clear, we need to have 20:20 vision going in to 2020.  This is not just any year, this is a start of a new decade, a year that is filled with optimism and a year that we can achieve anything.  There is only one drawback...

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what i know for sure

I started writing this blog post, as much as anything, just to work out what i was thinking as tbh i have been muddled and confused.  After 15 years of marriage i was unexpectedly divorced.  the divorce came through almost a year ago today.  During the 18 months since...

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Third Act

So thankfully, we are slowly talking about menopause, a stage in life that nature intended.  Sadly this natural decade, or so, is automatically associated with negativity, ill health, invisibility, unsexyness and reaching the top of some wretched hill that the only...

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finding stillness in this frantic world

when I was in London last week I was reminded how frantic our world is.  everyone looking down on their phones as they walk as quickly as possible to their next fix.  everyone has ear phones on and no one engages with anything, not even really looking at the path...

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